This episode of Sharon Cheung’s talk concluded my viewpoints. I always remember my discussion with two closer friends that nobody decides another person’s destiny, and that everything starts from our thoughts. It is the thoughts that determine our personality and action, which then lead to a choice, while the quality of our choices determines our direction. And action after a decision is made, will determine the outcome.
For example, if you opt not to have light lunch but keep thinking about having fast food, the likely outcome would be the risk of overweight to be borne by you subsequently. Your choice determines the outcome; it is not destiny or your god that determines if you might gain weight. Or, you are always praying for wealth and a lottery strike for handsome prize money, in real life you are reluctant to learn how to spend thriftily and save money, learn new skills to make sure you are still able to earn a living. If these are your choices, the poverty that entails is the outcome of your choice. This is a consequence of your action prior.
In general, ‘predestined’ or ‘predetermined’ is the favourite wording of those who could not shrug off their unfavourable outcome. It is ‘predestined’ for people to attend good universities, acquire knowledge and skill set to take up work that requires new skills. It is ‘predetermined’ if some senior citizens do not have money in their later years.
This is a convenient way of thinking, for ‘predestined’ is the absolutely accurate response to any dissatisfaction in life.
Worse still, ‘predetermined’ evolves into a vicious cycle in terms of thoughts. Since everything is ‘predestined’, our current and future situation is also ‘predestined’. That means you do not need to take any kind of action.
In short, do not waste time on listening to Feng Shui and astrology. Instead, master English language for more international opportunities. Take a short nap in the afternoon and get ready for physical exercise in the evening. Concentrating on your tasks at hand is definitely better than thinking about ‘predestined’.
We always know this and the choice is ours.
張寶華這一集的清談節目可以說是表達了我的想法。記得以前也跟兩位朋友談過，其實世界上並沒有誰決定誰的命運，所以事情都是先從想法開始。先有個想法，爾後形成性格與行動，行動之中有抉擇，而抉擇的質素高低決定方向，抉擇之後的行動將決定結果。
例如午餐若有清淡飯菜不要吃，整天想著吃快餐，那麼之後的肥胖就是你必須承受的結果，而不是老天爺或你相信的神決定你會不會變胖。又例如，你常常拜神求發財、求中彩票發大財，日常生活中卻不願意學習如何省錢存錢、如何學習新技能確保自己可以繼續賺錢，那麼之後的窮困潦倒，肯定就是你的選擇，因為之前的行動造成這樣的後果。
一般來說，不喜歡但是又不得不接受自己結局的人們，他們通常喜歡將所有事情歸咎為「天註定」。可以考上好大學，讀書識字有學問因此有能力從事新技能的工作，是因為那些人「天註定」可以如此。自己臨老過不到世，祇要一句「天註定」，就可以為自己年輕時的怠惰傲慢開脫，因為這個思想方法是最輕鬆的，反正「天註定」是百答百中的回應。更恐怖的是，「天註定」可以形成一個惡性循環的思考模式：反正一切都是「天註定」，現在和之後也是「天註定」，那麼當下就不需要怎麼樣的行動了。
說穿了，與其耗時間聽風水命理什麼的，倒不如學好英文開拓更多國際機會，下午小寐一下就可以準備黃昏時分好好運動。專心做事必定比胡思亂想「天註定」來得更好。
選擇權在我們手上，大家其實一直知道。